Healing Is Not an Overnight Process – It Takes Time
Healing Is Not an Overnight Process – It Takes Time
We all go through pain in life loss, heartbreak, betrayal, failure, loneliness. And while people around us may offer comforting words like “you’ll get over it” or “just stay strong,” the truth is, healing is not something that happens overnight. It takes time. Real time. And more than that, it takes patience, understanding, and a whole lot of self-love.
Healing is not a straight road. It’s a journey filled with twists, turns, and even roadblocks. Some days you’ll wake up feeling okay, even hopeful. Other days, you’ll struggle to get out of bed. That’s normal. That’s healing. It's messy, it's unpredictable, and it's deeply personal. What works for someone else might not work for you and that’s okay too.
We live in a world where everything is rushed. Quick results are celebrated, and anything that takes time is often seen as a weakness. But healing is not a race. There’s no finish line you have to reach in a certain number of days. You’re allowed to take your time. You’re allowed to pause, fall back, and try again. In fact, every time you choose to keep going, no matter how slow, you’re healing.
Sometimes, the world will expect you to be okay before you're ready. People might stop checking in, thinking you’ve moved on. But just because you’ve stopped talking about your pain doesn’t mean it’s gone. Sometimes, we carry invisible wounds that no one sees. And those are often the hardest to heal. So, if you're silently fighting your battles, know that your struggle is valid even if no one else sees it.
You don’t need to have everything figured out. You don’t have to pretend you're okay when you’re not. Feel what you need to feel. Cry if you must. Take breaks when you're overwhelmed. Journal your thoughts, talk to someone you trust, or simply sit with your feelings in silence. Healing isn’t about avoiding pain; it’s about facing it, understanding it, and growing through it.
Also, healing isn’t about going back to who you were before the pain. It’s about becoming someone new stronger, wiser, and more self-aware. It’s about accepting your past and learning to live with the parts of yourself that hurt. Scars don’t mean you’re broken. They mean you survived. They mean you’re still here, still breathing, still trying and that in itself is powerful.
One day, without even realizing it, you’ll notice the change. The things that once hurt deeply will feel lighter. You’ll laugh freely again. The tears will come less often. You’ll find joy in the little things a good cup of tea, the sound of rain, a kind message from a friend. Slowly, the light will return.
So, if you’re in the middle of your healing journey right now, please don’t rush it. Don’t blame yourself for not being “better” yet. You are healing, even if it doesn’t always feel like it. Progress isn’t always loud or visible sometimes, it’s just getting through the day without giving up.
Be gentle with yourself. You’re allowed to be a work in progress. You’re allowed to be healing and still moving forward. And most importantly, you’re not alone. You will get through this one day at a time.
I’ve written more deeply about this process in my book The Art of Being You, where I’ve shared Maya’s emotional journey of healing and self-discovery. Through her story, readers can find pieces of themselves, their own battles, and their strength. If you're on your healing journey too, I invite you to explore it. The link is below The Art of Being You perhaps it will speak to your heart.
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