Because life needs a little chaos before it finds its calm.

 

Sometimes Changes Are Necessary

Because life needs a little chaos before it finds its calm.

I don’t know when it started maybe a few weeks ago, maybe months but lately. I’ve been feeling like life has quietly shifted gears without telling me.

The same mornings that once felt warm now arrive a little colder.
The same people still smile but something about their eyes feels different.
And I keep asking myself: When did everything start changing?

The truth is, I never liked changes.
They make me anxious.
They make me question everything I once thought was stable.
And sometimes they hurt in ways words can’t describe.
But then again, what if the change I fear is the very thing I need?

A few days ago, I caught myself sitting in silence no background music, no phone, no distractions.... just me and my thoughts.
It’s strange how silence can sound louder than chaos sometimes.
That’s when I realized how much I had been avoiding certain things..
feelings, decisions, and yes, even people.

Maybe that’s what change really is not some grand event or sudden twist of fate
but a quiet acceptance that some things can’t stay the same forever.

We often associate change with loss.
And to be fair it usually begins with one.
Losing comfort.
Losing people.
Losing versions of ourselves we once loved.
But change isn’t just about endings it’s also about becoming.

Because every time something breaks inside us, a new space opens up for something better to grow.
You just don’t see it immediately.

It’s like watching a seed buried under soil.
You don’t see what’s happening beneath,
but one day there is a sprout.
Tiny... Fragile... Alive...

Still, I won’t romanticize it.
Changes are not always kind.
Sometimes, they arrive uninvited like an unexpected guest who turns your whole house upside down.

They test your patience, drain your energy and make you question your strength.
But maybe that’s what they’re meant to do to remind you that you can survive even the things you never thought you could.

Because if nothing ever changed you still be stuck in the same version of yourself,
living the same story,
feeling the same pain over and over again.

I remember once telling someone, “I hate changes.”
And they smiled and said
“Then maybe you hate growing too.”
That hit harder than I expected.
Because yes, maybe growing up isn’t just about birthdays or achievements.
Maybe it’s about learning to say goodbye without falling apart.
Maybe it’s about finding peace in uncertainty.
Maybe it’s about trusting life even when it stops making sense.

Sometimes, changes come like storms loud, messy, terrifying.
And sometimes, they arrive like soft rain quiet but cleansing.
Either way they leave you different.
Not better not worse just changed.
And maybe that’s okay.
Because the version of me that existed yesterday might not be strong enough for tomorrow.

So, if life wants to rewrite a few lines of my story, I’ll let it.
After all, how will I know what’s waiting on the next page if I never turn it?
If you’re going through changes right now
breathe.
It’s okay to feel lost.
It’s okay to cry.
It’s okay to not have all the answers.
But please don’t forget this
Every chapter that feels uncomfortable is preparing you for one that will make sense someday.

And when that day comes you’ll look back and smile softly, thinking
“I didn’t want it then, but I’m glad it happened.”

- Mehfuza sultana