"The dilemma between certainty and uncertainty."
When faced with a choice between certainty and uncertainty, it is important to look at the situation constructively. Instead of seeing it as a dilemma, let’s look at it as an opportunity for personal growth and development. Let’s find a balance between the two, recognising that certainty can provide comfort and stability, while uncertainty can provide valuable learning experiences. By accepting uncertainty with a positive attitude, we can learn to overcome challenges and develop resilience, ultimately becoming better versions of ourselves.
Sometimes we are uncertain about certain things and may be unsure of what action to take. While I cannot share what I am unsure about, I can share some of my experiences with you. I never realized how challenging adulthood would be. As an adult, it is your responsibility to make decisions and if you make mistakes, you have to face the consequences.
In my current situation, I have no other choice but to succeed with plan A, there is no plan B. I recently made a significant decision that will have a profound impact on my present and future life. While I initially believed it was the right choice, I now have doubts and fear it may turn out to be a worst decision. Despite thinking about this for 3 years, I am still confused.
Actually, i need a push to move forward. I need someone to motivate me and provide support to complete my work. Most of the time it's difficult for me to be self-motivated, so having someone push me and tell me that I can do it really helpful."When I look back at last year, I was uncertain about my book November. One evening in November my friend called me and asked me about the book!
Our conversation
She - Book complete ho gaye?Me - kunse book?
She - Are jo tum 1 saal se likhne ki planning kar rahe the wo book?
Me - Maine wo book likhna suru nahi keya!
She was shocked after hearing that.
She - Pagal ho gaye hoo kya. Kuch nahi likha abhi tak!
Me - Nahi mujhe man nahi kar raha hai.
She - Mujhe kuch nahi pata new year par hum donow ki book sath launch hone wale the to ab likho osse please.
Me - Lekin new year main 2 month han bas aur 1 month to baki ki formality pure karne main lag jayega.
She - Ye tum bol rahe hoon jisne 1 month main 100 across the world writer dund kar apne book compile the.
Me - Is baar hoga nahi mujhe ayse lagta han.
She - Story kya han wo pata han na tumhe matlb kya likhna han wo maloom han na bas likha suru karo.
Me - Nahi story nahi pata sirf index ready han. Na to title na story na cover idea kuch bhi ready nahi hai..
She - Tum kar loge mujhe pata han.
After uttering these two words, she abruptly ended the call. I was getting worried about how to manage and write about what will happen with so few days left. Despite personal troubles, I gathered courage to write.
A friend of mine suggested that I take a break for a few days before resuming work. They reminded me that I have accomplished many things in the past that I was unsure about at first, but ended up succeeding in. Despite my doubts, I was able to overcome challenges and achieve my goals. I followed his advice and took a break for a few days. I finished the book within a week. When I sent them the final manual script of the book November, they were surprised at how quickly I wrote it. I was able to write in the book November because of their encouragement.
Alhamdulillah "I have received a lot of praise for this book." Whenever I meet someone, they first talk about my book November which makes me feel good. I remember those nights when I would write until morning. There are a lot of things connected to that book.
I needed someone's motivation again this time. This is not a book, so I cannot complete it overnight. This is a major decision in my life, and I have spoken to many people, had numerous conversations, and asked for their suggestions.
I ask them "Will this be beneficial for me? Can I accomplish this goal?" Alote alote more questions.I received a lot of advice from different people based on their own experiences. Interestingly, all of them had the same response – that I should trust my instincts and do what I feel is right. Ultimately, it is up to me to take responsibility for my life and get my work done. Although they were happy to offer advice, ultimately the decision is mine.
Sometimes we give advice easily but struggle to apply it to ourselves, leading to demotivation and uncertainty.
I spent two or three days to thinking about this whether or not I wanted to pursue this thing. One moment I felt sure that I wanted to do it, but the next moment I wasn't so sure. It was a complicated situation, and thinking about it all day led me to have a panic attack yesterday evening while I was praying the Isha salah.
There was a lot going on in my head. Maybe I also thought about both of these things which are never going to happen.I had a lot on my mind and I found myself pondering about things that are unlikely to ever happen. It took me an hour to calm down, and once I did, I completed my salah. I didn't tell anyone about what happened because I was unsure how I got into that situation in the first place. (I will only talk about this today and save the discussion of panic attacks for another time.)
I am not confident about that matter yet. I am uncertain how much longer I will ponder over this. And where can I discover a solution? I can only hope that everything turns out well.
"I've been contemplating this decision for the past three years, and I've sought advice from various people. Some have provided me with encouragement, while others have discouraged me, leaving me even more unsure about what to do. However, I have come to realize that sometimes the suggestions given by others may not be what's best for me. Despite their advice, I should also consider my thoughts and opinions."
I completely agree that having support from loved ones and family is crucial to living a fulfilling life. However, there are times when practicality should take precedence over emotions. It's important to make decisions that won't lead to regrets later on, even if others may consider you selfish. Ultimately, it's your life and your choices should be respected.
The blog is too long. I won't write more. "I have decided to handle this situation on my own. I am in charge of this chapter of my life, and every character in it will be my own."
"I always repeat these two lines to myself."
"जब तक तू गिरेगी नहीं तब तक खड़ी कैसे होगी,
जब तक घिसेगी नहीं तब तक कैसे चमकेगी।"
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