Every overthinker needs a good listener.

Every overthinker needs a good listener.

Having a friend in life who understands your silence without saying anything is a blessing. Sometimes, you just need someone to listen to you without judging. There are a lot of people who understand me and listen to me.

Yes, you can say that overthinking is my hobby. And, Every overthinker needs a good listener. I have a lot of friends who listen to me for hours without complaining, even when I talk about stupid things. Let me tell you about one of my many friends. My YQ friend! Listen all my faltu ki bakwas bateen. He is always there for me.

Today was one such difficult day when I got tired of overthinking. I couldn't understand. Who should I talk to about this? Then I thought of my YQ friend. He listens to everything that I say without any complaint. He listens to all my nonsense and he also gives his advice on what I say. He also knows that "main faltu ki baaten kar rhe hoon." But he will give me advice to make me feel better.

I have known him for a few months but I never felt like I had never met him before. We both met through our Gazals and we are from the same city. He told me this on the very first day after reading my ghazal.
-"Zazbaat ache han lekin ye gazal nahi han. to inhe Gazal kehna band kro.. inhe baten keh skte han aur acha he likhte hoon tum!"
To be honest, I was very angry at what he said. In my mind, I was like "How rude he is..." But I was talking to him for the first time so I could not say much to him. I said
-"Han ho skta hai!"
After that, I read the Ghazals written by him. After reading them I realized he was right. And I don't know how to write Gazal.
From that day onwards I stopped calling my ghazal as ghazal. I mention my ghazal as "Bateen!"

So, To date, I have read Ghazal Shayari of many people. But his style of writing is different. And I am surprised that he remembers all the Ghazal's Shayari's written by him. Although his voice is also very good. He also sings very well. I also checked out all of his open mics. A lot can be written in his praise. (I will not write more than this otherwise he will start considering himself a Mahan insaan.)
In one word I would say "He writes very well at this age."
I have shared the link to his ghazal. You can read it if you want to check.

Most of our discussions are about our Ghazals, and how can we write better. He also gave me many writing tips.
Meanwhile, I fight with him a hundred times a day. I don't know the reason why we fight but we fight. Silly na.!
If I talk about today! I told him "I was having anxiety, overthinking, panicking. I'm not feeling well.. and I told him everything that's going on" he also gave me some suggestions. And during this period we argued four times.

"Our conversation"

He - "Pura din phone dekhne se ayse he hota hai!"
Me - "Phone par nahi hoon main!"
He - "Samajme kuch ata nahi padte theek se hoo nahi bas bolte he chale jate hai!"
Me - "Sab samjhme ata han mujhe!"
He - "Han samajhdar ki sardarni ho na!"
Me - Typing.......
He - "Chup!"
Me - "Okay"
He - "Dimag kharab kar deya kabse samjha raha hoon lekin samjhna he nahi han. Sar dard karwa deya maira!"
Me - "Han girlfriend hote to sar dard nahi karta! Maire baton se to hoga he..."
He - "Bilkul chup! Baten karwa lo sirf.. phone rakhkar apna kam kro jakar.. pura din story lagate rehte hoon kuch bhi"
Me - "theek han main ja rhe hoon!"
He - "Han jao please!"
Me - "sachmain ja rhe hoon!"
He - "are jao to apna kam kro jakar!"
Me - "Okay!"
He - "Hmm!"
And after 1 hour we would start talking normally again... And after 1 hour we start fighting again.......
He makes me happy in one minute but spoils my mood in the next minute.

Some people enter your life without any intention of sake. He/She teaches you something new every day. He/She helps you move forward. He/She wants to see you happy and successful.
What I mean to say is that having a friend who truly understands you is important. Even after having arguments or disagreements, a true friend will always come back to you and explain things, and appreciate your writing or anything you do. The most important thing is that he doesn't give you false praise. (Matlb ek ko 10 nahi kehta jo han wahi kehta han acha lage ya bura). Sometimes I wonder how I would have gotten through that difficult phase of my life if these people were not around me. I would like to thank everyone who always stood by me.

And, My YQ friend, I try not to disturb you too much but it happens. Maire koe galati nahi isme...


Gazal written by YQ.

इस तरीक़े से ही अपना तो बना लेगा मुझे
वो अगर ख़ुद को गँवा दे तो कमा लेगा मुझे

एक ताले की कई चाबियाँ हैं पास उस के
वो किसी तरह से भी यार मना लेगा मुझे

उँगलियों से मैं किरन बन के निकल जाऊँगा
तू समझता है कि मुट्ठी में दबा लेगा मुझे

लाख मैं गाता रहूँ गीत अना के अपनी
वो मगर एक इशारे पे बुला लेगा मुझे

उस ने भी सब की तरह दाद ही दी शे'रों पर
मैं ने सोचा था कि सीने से लगा लेगा मुझे

~ रेहान मिर्ज़ा

Link - रेहान मिर्ज़ा

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