Me Time

A few days ago! There was a long discussion between me and my friend on this topic for four to five days. So the answer for both of us was the same In today's busy life no one has time to take a deep breathe so how will anyone have time for themselves. When I was young, I heard from many people that "Me Time" is very important. Although i did not even understand then the concept of "Me Time". Because, I never see people around me taking out some time for themselves from their busy schedule and spend sometime with themselve. As I grew up, I understand this concept maybe not completely but a little bit.

What is "Me Time"?

Giving time to yourself, loving yourself, pampering yourself, praising yourself, Finding yourself, discover your hobbies, offline.. long list! In short, its only about you..you..and you..and yourself..

No..No.., there is nothing selfishness about it if you are thinking about yourself. Of course family, friends is important. But how can you keep them happy unless you are happy yourself? 

Remember one thing. The person sitting on the chair in front of you will not always be with you. That is why you should also know how to live alone.

Batao..batao..!!!!

So in my childhood, I used to think that whoever is around me, be it family or friends , will always be with me. Some people die, some people change. Yes, living or dying is not in our control, it is the will of Allah. In these few years, I have lost many of my special people which I probably never imagined to live my life without them. And I am a person who depends on people on my family. Like, I can't eat my food alone, I can't do my things alone, I need people around me. I can't being alone. Although, I am scared of ghosts, that is why I cannot stay alone. What do you mean a mother of two kids can't be scared of ghosts? I feel scared., And I have no shame in telling you this... So I like to spend my "Me Time" during the day only.

But one thing I have learned over the years is that you should learn to live alone. Because not everyone will be with you forever. Some people are with you because of their own interest when their own interest ends then they are goneee. Like they are never exist in your life. Everyone is busy in their personal life. People change with time and not everyone can stay with you for life. 

So what should we do...

I think everyone must learn this thing. Eating alone, sleeping alone, living alone, self-love. 

-Stand in front of the mirror and smile at yourself instead of imagining anyone in your mind. Like my husband! He can look at himself in the mirror for non-stop 1 hour. And he keeps asking me "how I am looking?" and my answer is always that "you always looks good".

-Dressing up for yourself, not for others. 

Cook your favorite food and eat it. Yes, if you don't know how to cook then you can also order online Or go to a restaurant and eat.

-Look outside at the sky close your eyes and feel the wind. And if it's raining, you can get wet in the rain.

-Read a good book. But if you don't like reading books then do whatever you like to do.

-Buy those things that you have been keeping in your wishlist for many months Yes, buy whatever is within your budget. Otherwise later you will complain to me that I gave you the idea and your entire savings ruined.

-If you want to go somewhere, go there alone without waiting for someone else's company. Walk on those paths without anyone's company. Buy flowers for yourself. 

-You wait for someone to take a camera and click your pictures. It's better than this click your own selfie. And whenever you look at those pictures, you smile and remember those memories and live them again!

It's a long list, I will share it some other time. But,

-The most important thing is to get yourself closer to Allah. Because when everyone leaves you, only Allah stays with you. He never leaves you alone. He never lets you down. He listens to everything you say. And he doesn't ask anything from you in return except your Iman. 

I felt this way so this is what I wrote. Now some people might think this is nonsense, and some people might think it's great. If you read the whole thing, thank you for that.

-Mehfuza Sultana

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